My Mum asked me recently, “Is writing all this & baring your soul publicly helping you on this journey to recovery?”
My answer was a theoretical “yes”… though my explanation is more an instinct than scientific in nature.
Five thoughts on why being vulnerable and sharing with each other is important:
a) “Faking it till I Make it” – perhaps I can speak internal change into being … proclaim to attain!
b) Encouraging a deep dive and exploration into my underlying issues/mindsets
c) Exposing those mindsets and core issues and by shining light, removing the power of the hidden/darkness
d) Accountability. I think part of deciding to post about all of this now, is so that I am making myself accountable to changing. There is nowhere to hide now …
e) Only by sharing can we build a community for consensus and change.
Even in my small circle of “Friends”/”Followers”, there have been quite a few who have responded to say how much they can relate or similar things they have/continue to struggle with … and I genuinely think that for too long there has been shame or fear surrounding actually admitting weakness, vulnerability or struggle. Or women, in particular, just accepting that this is what we have to put up with and strive towards our whole lives … and it is not actually true. And the only way that things will change, is by people rejecting the accepted ‘norms’.
I’m sure all of this makes some people uncomfortable. I’m sure some are thinking I’m “over-sharing”. To those people, I’d say, feel free to scroll on by 🙂